In a world obsessed with perfection, where appearance often takes center stage, how you see yourself can make or break your confidence. 

If you want to cultivate a more positive body image, learning to navigate these highs and lows is a crucial step forward. Whether you're battling conflicting feelings or wanting to amplify your self-love, every inch of your body is worth celebrating. 

A definition of “body image”

Your body image expresses the thoughts and feelings you have about your body, including both your perception of and attitude toward your physical appearance.

Body image issues often stem from influences like society, culture, personal experiences, and comparison to others. It's totally normal for your perception of your body to oscillate between positive and negative, sometimes feeling contentment and pride and other times feeling shame and dissatisfaction. 

In some cases, dissatisfaction with your body may lead to dieting, developing a strained relationship with food, or experiencing body dysmorphia (when you can’t accurately view your body, often seeing it as larger, thinner, or weaker than it truly is).

Importantly, body image is your perception — it’s not necessarily accurate. It's about how you perceive your appearance and how you feel about this perception, which may or may not align with your actual physical appearance.

The four aspects of body image 

Body image isn’t a one-dimensional concept. Instead, four components shape how you see, feel, think about, and react to your body: 

1. Perceptual body image is the mental picture you form of your appearance or how you see your body. In more self-critical moments, it’s helpful to remember that this perception isn't always accurate. You might form this from your reflection or photos of yourself. 

2. Affective body image is how you feel about your body and the emotions you associate with it. It covers the range of feelings you may experience when considering your body, including happiness, apathy, and even disgust. Affective body image covers your overall satisfaction or dissatisfaction with your body, including your weight and specific features.

3. Cognitive body image is how you think about your body. In some cases, these beliefs (true or untrue) can overwhelm your thoughts, causing you to become preoccupied with certain aspects of your body. A person might fixate on the idea that their nose is too big or that they're overweight or underweight, regardless of whether or not this is true.

4. Behavioral body image covers the actions and behaviors you exhibit in response to your thoughts and feelings about your body. People unsatisfied with their appearance may engage in harmful behaviors like risky cosmetic surgery, self-isolation, and drug abuse.

What’s body positivity? 

Being body positive — or having a positive body image — isn't necessarily about seeing your body as perfect. It's genuine respect and love for your body, even if you dislike certain parts.

People with positive body images see their bodies in a realistic light, not letting perceived flaws interrupt their overall self-worth and allowing them to retain high self-esteem. They recognize their value beyond physical appearance, fostering self-confidence and empowerment.

Body positivity is all about combating social pressures to look a certain way and using positive language like “I’m beautiful” and “I’m worthy” to foster self-love and appreciation. The central idea is to not let the media and others’ preferences dictate the meaning of “beauty” to you, instead broadening your definition to include everyone, regardless of age, body type, and fitness level.

What’s body neutrality? 

Body neutrality emphasizes taking a neutral stance toward your body and appreciating what it can do without attaching strong positive or negative emotions to your perception. Contrary to body positivity, this movement shifts from using explicit positive language and affirmations to viewing your body through a lens of function rather than aesthetics, such as appreciating your legs for allowing you to run instead of criticizing your thighs for being too large. 

The central aim of body neutrality is to lessen the mental energy you spend thinking about your appearance. In the broader context of body image, this mindset is a valuable stepping stone for transitioning from a negative to a more realistic perception of your body.

5 ways to improve your body image

Body image plays a pivotal role in your mental well-being, at times determining whether you feel confident enough to enjoy the activities you love, like socializing or working out. Luckily, while combating society's unrealistic and often unhealthy beauty standards is a tall order, these five strategies might help you improve your body image. 

1. Habituate positive self-talk 

When you have the same thought continuously, you habituate these thought patterns, increasing the chance you’ll have these same thoughts again. This means that when you have negative thoughts about your body, you bolster this negative narrative. To combat this, you can embrace positive self-talk, replacing negative thoughts with positive ones while trying to talk to yourself as you would a friend. This can help transform your internal dialogue. 

Another method for re-writing this negative narrative is to practice positive body-focused affirmations like "I’m grateful for my body and all it does for me" and "I embrace my body's uniqueness." Whatever you choose to repeat, make sure it’s something appreciative and loving to combat any negative self-talk. 

2. Avoid comparisons

Social media and body image go hand in hand — unfortunately, because most of what’s on social platforms isn’t real. In today's digital age, it's easy to fall prey to comparison, the thief of joy. But when you start comparing your appearance to people you see online, remember that you're seeing a snapshot of curated, edited-for-Instagram moments. You're not seeing the other person's body image, with its own ups and downs, but rather a highlight reel. 

These comparisons also distract you from what really matters — the growth you hope to achieve for yourself. Don’t waste time trying to meet others’ milestones. Instead, focus on your own self-improvement and loving your body for all it does for you. 

3. Recognize your abilities

Reflect on how your body serves you. This could be through hobbies, physical activities, or simple pleasures like looking at the stars or eating your favorite meal. Celebrate these strengths, abilities, and experiences that have nothing to do with how you look.

4. Consider your triggers

Self-awareness is a significant part of self-love. Identify what triggers negative thoughts about your body to help you avoid them. You might ask yourself the following questions: 

• What damages my body image? (magazines, movies, social media)

• When do I feel the most down about myself, and what happens just before this?

• What are five of the most common negative thoughts I have about myself, and what’s the focus in each?

When you know how to answer these questions, you can avoid certain situations or triggers and find affirmations or practices that bring positivity to the center. 

5. Be thankful 

Practicing gratitude can dramatically shift your body image because it promotes positive self-talk and moves you away from hurtful nitpicking and toward appreciation. 

To do this, recognize and express thanks for what your body can do for you, like hugging a friend or going for a swim. You might start each morning naming three things or check in each week to jot down specific activities you did that you’re grateful for. 

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